Sorry, I'm Hatred-Intolerant

Why do some men feel that other men being gay is somehow an affront to their masculinity? 

 

What are they so afraid of?

Their own sexuality and of falling out of the closet? That, or are they afraid gay men have bigger dicks? I know some women who have bigger balls. Oh wait, I am one.

Let a girl just choose a girl over a man, and they feel they are "less of a man" for it and get all defensive, as if it has anything at all to do with them. That's right - they seem to think that a woman's taste in men (or women) actually affects them! Geez! Talk about insecurities, issues and mental problems! ... or is that ego? Nah, try arrogance.

Take for example the arsehole that beat up the three lesbians in the bar in Jeffreysbay last weekend. He saw three girls there and approached them, and when they politely told him after his badgering, that they weren't interested in his advances because they were gay, he then tried to force himself on one of them. Then he decided to beat up on them for daring to reject him.

He actually slammed one woman into a wall, before throwing another across the room.

These women - innocent victims of this individual's unwarranted aggression, were verbally abused and then physically attacked for being gay. Whichever way you look at this, this is a hate crime.

I was quite annoyed that the attacker - a male-identified individual with a clear inferiority complex - wasn't arrested for the crime, and still don't know if he has been since. 

 

This is a dangerous, violent criminal with serious psychological issues, what's to prevent him from doing it again to someone else? If he could be so "wounded" by facing the truth that some women just aren't interested in his romantic attentions when he is out having a good time with his friends - imagine what he would do if he actually had a bad day.

In fact, imagine if this hadn't happened at a bar? So many lesbians in South Africa end up getting raped out of the hatred and rage by low-lifes such as this who have issues with their own weak and pathetic sexual self-image.

People like this guy belong in a maximum security prison while serving lengthy sentences without the possibility of parole. It's simply inexcusable to turn a blind eye to this sort of thuggery while people are getting murdered every day all over the world simply for the "crime" of being gay or trans, and this bullshit has got to stop! 

 

The South African authorities need to start taking human rights and hate crimes seriously, and stop coddling people who think because they are straight they have all the right to demand a woman falls on her knees at their masculine prowess - or otherwise to slam them into walls because they can't have their little way with them.

 

How dare mere women turn him down, right? How dare they be gay?

Nobody stops these people from being knuckle-dragging misogynistic savages if that's what they want to be - but I don't see why they should be given reason to think they have the right to force themselves on anyone else. At the end of the day, after all this introspection, I think there's sufficient reason to doubt that he would've reacted that way towards the women if they were straight and still uninterested in him.

After all, why would women go to bars other than to cruise and to pick up men? And if they dare to turn a man down, he has the full right to take his small-dick issues out on them, right?

Why not pick on someone his own size? Because like all men who act this way, he's a coward, that's why.

Come slam this chick into a wall, buddy. I'll send flowers to your relatives.

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