Wednesday, October 12, 2016

New Living Ways Ministry SA Seeks Human Rights For 'Ex-Gays'

This morning I found an item in my mailbox from Andre' Bekker, a representative of "New Living Way Ministry" - an 'ex-gay' group in South Africa. It was headed "An Open Letter to the Gay Community and Activists", and its content can be read right at the bottom of this article. I have no idea who else has received a copy of this letter, but since it was headed 'an open letter', I presume it was meant for the whole LGBT community in South Africa, and of course activists such as myself.

I don't often reply to provocative letters from organizations of that caliber. It's not normally worth the aggravation. It's obvious though, that Mr. Bekker wanted a response of some sort, so I sat at my PC a little longer than I really wanted to, and read through the whole thing. Suitably provoked after a time, I typed out my reply, included below:

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

The Magenta Dragon

Most in the South African Vampyre community who have done a little research into the history will know that this community’s recorded history began in May 2010 with the foundation of House Valur. Most will know that the community only began growing and taking form with the founding of the South African Vampyre Alliance (SAVA) in June 2011, but little if anything is known about the community in the time before that.
Sometimes though, one finds little gems that shine a new light on what we already know. This being the case, we examine the recollections of one of the community’s earliest builders from before 2010. Also, we will examine the initial overlap of Vampyre culture with other subcultures and societies at the time – in this case, South African Pagan culture. We will also examine the role played by vampyric Pagans in laying the groundwork for the growth and formation of the VC independently of the Pagan community in SA – and the important role these events played in the subsequent relationship between the Pagan and Vampyre communities. First, a little background.

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Passion, Perception And Prejudice

Today is another day I find myself facing accusations that I 'hate Christians'. The source of this accusation, undoubtedly, is some of the posts I circulate on Facebook - posts which unmask Christian hatred for the 'other' - that is, for non-Christians and LGBT people, also atheists, Pagans and people who worship other gods.

I am a human rights activist, and as an activist, my function is to first of all expose, advertise or bring under the spotlight any wrongdoing, injustice or crimes against humanity to the public - and secondly, to thereby challenge fixed mindsets, prejudices, misunderstanding and ignorance. Thirdly, my task is to educate those ignorant of the facts surrounding those whom they have been encouraged to hate and oppress. 

Ignorance is the biggest enemy of all, because people fear and mistrust what they do not understand - and what they fear, they hate. There is too much fear and hate in the world we live in today.

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

What DO I Really Want?

It's regarded as naive' to want everyone to 'just get along' and 'make nice'... but nevertheless, that's all I really want from the world. Every day as a human rights advocate I see words spoken by people consumed by anger and hatred towards other people, and it saddens me. Yes, I've spoken out in anger before too, and I will again today and tomorrow... but that's a reaction to the hatred and anger of others - and the acts of cruelty committed out of their hatred and anger. At least I am above committing such acts of hatred and cruelty, unlike those I usually take on as an activist.
...but why can't we just try to get along? Why do those who do harm to others so vehemently defend and look for excuses to justify their hatred and their actions of harm? Does hurting others make them more right? Does destroying lives prove their point? Does doing bad things in the name of 'goodness' or 'righteousness' mean they are 'good' people?
Let's make a pact to start fresh. Try to look at the world around us anew - at OURSELVES and at each other anew. Not as Christians or ChristianISTS, Muslims or Islamicists, as 'straights' or 'homosexuals', or as different shades of skin color, not as our religions or cultures or ideologies or races - but as PEOPLE. 
I'm not in government, you aren't in government - only the politicians pursuing wealth and power are in government. They seem to decide our causes and our issues for us... instead of us doing that for them.
We should stop lending our ears to these puppeteers, and stop giving them what they want. It's time they started listening to the people and giving us what we want.
Peace. Harmony. True equality. Rule of law, safety and security - honoring the Constitution and the Bill of Rights, transparency, accountability. A healthy, growing, stable economy; a living wage, social security, an open equal opportunity society.
Make it so.

Tuesday, January 26, 2016


Let's talk about belief. It's amazing - and also quite frightening - how some people seem to be more concerned with what other people believe about anything, rather than concerning themselves with their own private beliefs. Typically this is even more true when it comes to religious beliefs.

Some adherents of certain religions for example, find it difficult to not become obsessed about other people who do not share their particular beliefs. They can, and often do, even go so far as to claim that other people's beliefs are 'harmful' - either to the believer themselves, or to others - typically while believing that their own are not. 

It becomes something of a finger-pointing game. I see it happening in my social media news feed every day. I daily scroll past thread after thread of people arguing about how wrong, stupid, ignorant etc everyone else is for not agreeing with them - flame wars filled with people fighting to convince others how right their particular religion is, and about how wrong, misguided, dangerous and harmful the other is. 

It has to be the most unaware, blissfully ignorant display of self-glorifying selfishness there is.

Thursday, August 13, 2015


The following paper was sent to me by Francis Mwine Mubwaro, a LGBT activist from Uganda, with a request to repost it on my blog.

I am honored to oblige, and it is with utmost respect and admiration that I share this document here:


PRESENTER: FRANCIS MWINE                      

This paper is published under the responsibility of Krysler Thematic and think tank group, where the presenter is the founding member and Chairperson, affiliated to Twagalane Association.

Comments on this paper are invited.
Please contact the author and presenter at EMAIL: 

Sunday, May 10, 2015

Live Your Dream!

I think we all start off hoping to start changing into that mythical supermodel with the long thin legs, that impossible Barbie waistline and cleavage we always wanted as soon as we embark on Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)... Meanwhile, it doesn't happen for everyone quite the way we hope it will, and certainly not overnight, if at all. I think it's an unrealistic expectation we all have.

After a lifetime of living inside a shell that doesn't match what we feel we look like on the inside, we want the exterior to match the interior. We feel like beautiful people on the inside, and we want the outside to reflect that image we have been taught from an early age, a woman 'ought' to be.

"I don't think my face is feminine enough". "I don't think I pass". "I look like a dude in a dress"... These are some of the many, many self-critical comments I've heard from many of my sisters over the years. Some of them I've heard crossing my own lips.

Many people tell me I'm a beautiful woman, and these days it's not so much that I believe them, eventually - it's more that it doesn't really matter to me what other people think of my looks anymore. You see, while I am not unappreciative of the compliments people pay me, it really has nothing to do with how others see me - but with how I see myself.